We worry too much about what other people think. Authenticity builds confidence.
Problems
Self-esteem / fitting-in
It feels good to have attention
Everyone has had an experience when they controlled the room. It was a moment when you had the leadership role. You gave a solid presentation in class or told a funny joke to a small group of friends. Everyone's body language showed positive interest in what you had to say. All eyes were on you. It felt pretty good didn't it?
There is nothing better than feeling like you are part of a group—a group that looks at you with admiration and attention. It's a tremendous confidence booster.
However, there is a small concept people miss when they look at a situation like this: they forget that they have to be themselves. Being yourself is what makes you confident because it is what makes you comfortable.
Teens face a lot
Teens feel they need a lot of material things and titles to fit in. Getting absorbed into these thoughts cause teens to lose appreciation for what they do have. There is a loss of respect when peers create labels for people they feel are different from their type.
What is different? According to some teens, it may be…
- not having brand name clothing and things
- having a physical disability
- being studious
- having a quiet personality
…you get the idea.
Popularity it a big joke
It's funny how every school has that “popular” group. What forms these celebrity groups? Is it only based on money, beauty, cute couples, and varsity jackets?
I mean really, have you ever heard students in the hallways say “oh my gosh, that person does so well in school. They are so cool?” Popularity is a materialistic attitude that has to change.
It takes a toll
Fitting in with the crowd has a strong relationship with self-esteem. Not fitting in causes the bullying, violence, disrespect, and all the other pressures teens unfortunately face. Being the “odd one out” can hurt someone both mentally and physically.
Forget what people think
Back to the positive experience you revisited in the beginning. When you have someone's attention and demonstrate a positive leadership role, you forget about what everyone thinks of you. You have their attention. What more could you ask for?
Teens forget that there are positive friends out there that are respectful, fun, and willing to listen. Trying to be someone else, just to please the people that really don't care about you anyways, causes paranoia to be perfect. Who wants that weight on their shoulders?
Comfortable pieces fit together to build a confident person. Reshape society and show the importance of being happy with you.
